I’ve been absent on here for awhile. Its been a weird time. A lot has gone on and yet nothing much has happened.
The kids are out of school for the summer and we are trying to get into a pattern. I have enjoyed the quiet mornings where they sleep in and I get stuff done. I did lots of running around the last two weeks. There is summer band and youth activities and friend get togethers as well as grocery shopping that inevitably needs to happen to feed all the kids multiple times a day.
The past couple weeks have also been a little difficult. My dad texted my mom who in turn informed us that his uncle had a stroke. The ambulance showed up and took him to the hospital. They kept him alive long enough for his family to get there. The doctor said it was the worst brain bleed he’s ever seen. He was 85. He was a very good guy. We went down for the funeral last week and though it was a sad occasion, it was nice to see family that we hadn’t seen in so many years. My dad is an only child so all the extended family we have on that side, my dad’s cousins and such, are our family. We call them our cousins, aunts and uncles. No differentiating between 1st and 2nd cousins and what have you.
I took all my kids down for the funeral. I didn’t take them to the church for the funeral part because I don’t think they could stay quiet that long. The service was good and I cried a bit too much because my cousins and my aunt were crying so much. I did take my kids to the grave dedication though. My uncle was a veteran and they did the whole 21 gun salute and played Taps on the bugle. My dad was in uniform and participated. When he handed the flag to his aunt I kind of lost it again and was crying. There was a funny part though. The cemetery is on a steep hill. Like a 30-40 degree angle mountainside. The pallbearers put the casket down and it started to slide off. They readjusted it and set it down again. It slid down again. This happened like three times before they got it to stay. We were all aghast and then giggling. Alex said they should have tiered the cemetery but my dad said they couldn’t. There were so many rocks and boulders. My gramma’s cousin (who was also my elementary teacher) died about 2 weeks ago and it took three hours to dig her grave when it normally only takes an hour an a half. So burials on the slanted mountainside is what we’ll have to deal with.
Then, my grampa’s saga continues. He was in and out of the hospital three times last week. He wasn’t going to die no matter what. The social worker talked to him and asked him what his plans were. He said he was going to live another 10 years. Make it to 101? Not likely. She had to take the wind out of his sails. She told him that all the health problems that he has have no cure, that he is never going to get better. I bet that was a huge blow to him. My grampa called my dad and told him to come down and get all his affairs in order. My mom sent pictures last night and it was a huge night and day difference. It was sad. He looked resigned and the fight had gone out of him whereas the week before he looked older, but he still looked like himself.
My dad and him haven’t had the best relationship but it was good he got to go down to visit. They talked and my dad told him aviation stories (my dad was a pilot and my grampa an aviation mechanic). It was a good thing. My grampa’s brother and cousin were there visiting from Pennsylvania and were still there when my dad got there so he got to visit with them for a bit. Now we just wait. Death is a hard thing to deal with no matter how it happens.
Other than that, life has just been work. I worked on the inside of the house last year and this year I am working on the outside. I fixed the flowerbed in front because I took a picture of my peonies and all I could see were the weeds all around it. I quickly weeded it all and went and bought mulch. I put a good thick layer all over the flowerbed and it looks much better. I hope that it keeps the weeds at bay and keeps the dirt moist. The west is in the middle of a drought and it is bad. I water my lawn and the next day it is like I did nothing. It is a huge chore to keep everything watered. I’m trying to be judicious with the water but I can’t let the trees and garden die. We need the shade and food.
I am also working on the side yard next to the driveway. It has been an ugly mess since we moved in. I finally decided what I want to do with it. Grass would be nice but would take a lot of water and we couldn’t really park on it. I was going to pave it but then I would have to deal with weeds growing between the pavers. I decided to do both grass and pavers so we can park on it but still have some visual interest as well as keep the weeds at bay. I had the boys help me till the ground so that we can level it and get it done. Hopefully this week I will have it finished. And I also bought a bike rack because I can’t take all the bike mess any longer.
Also, I decided to put the pool up. I wasn’t going to put it up until the middle or end of July. June in Idaho is usually pretty chilly. Last year was just plain cold. Not this year. We’ve been in the upper 80’s and 90’s and a bunch of records have been broken. We decided to just put it up so we could cool off. The water warmed up a lot faster than it ever has this early.
I have a ton of work to do but I thought I would check in for a few minutes. I’m going to go finish the projects I started and get my kids to help me out. They live here too and need to pitch in. I want to enjoy the summer, not work the entire time. I also have two birthdays and Father’s Day to prepare for coming up in the next few days. It will be busy.